OVERCOMING THE DEATH OF A MOTHER

We have always been taught or have deduced from our own intuition and basic knowledge of life that children should bury their parents, and on many occasions, this is how it happens. After all, death is a natural part of life that we will all come to sooner or later. However, the loss of a mother causes such great pain that we can spend months and years suffering from that loss.

Although death is a natural part of life, one never prepares to receive it, even though the person may be suffering from a terminal illness. Much less do we prepare to face the death of our mother, although many believe they are, in the end, it always hurts, even when we are adults.

A mother can be the only person who guides us from the moment we are born and grow up. A mother’s love is a love that no one else can give you, and is fully unconditional love, that even if we make mistakes she will always love us and support us at all times.

For these reasons and much more, the pain we feel when our mother can be something really complicated and difficult to bear. No matter how old we are, we always want our mother to never leave us, even when we are married and have children.

Being in a grieving situation because of a mother’s death can be a very difficult thing to deal with, no matter how prepared we think we are. It doesn’t matter if she died from natural causes or from some disease, the loss of a mother always hurts.

However, not everyone experiences grief in the same way. Everyone may experience different feelings, and some may take longer than others to get over their mother’s death. That is why it is important to take the time to understand the facts and accept the new reality.

During grief, we must try to be as aware as possible, which is difficult because of the pain we feel, but our health and well-being may depend on it. When we spend a lot of time being sad, depressed, and crying, this begins to be reflected in our bodies and we begin to feel physically and emotionally exhausted. That’s why we should maintain a healthy diet and rest during times of grief so that we can cope better.

During these moments of loss, it is essential to seek support from family and friends. Some may say that they want to be alone, but this is not the best way to overcome the death of a mother. A family member, a friend, a co-worker, etc. There will always be someone who can support you in different ways and help you to get through the grief better.

Try to keep the routines you had before you lost your mother, make new plans, go out with your friends and family. And when you feel sad, lean on the good memories, you will surely find new strength to focus on the best of your mother and her love, which is what lasts even when she is no longer physically present. Remember all the qualities and teachings she left you, that is one of the most important things in her legacy.

Tips To Get Over the Death of a Mother

If you have been grieving over your mother’s death and don’t know how to get over it, you may want to consider putting these tips into practice and also seek help from God, or other family members, to move forward.

Don’t rush through grief

Many people tend to hide or hold back their emotions when faced with the loss of a loved one. However, this only makes us feel worse and prolongs the pain. You shouldn’t hide your emotions, acknowledge the pain, and cry about it. This is part of the healing process, and the more you release your emotions the faster you will get over the loss.

It is natural to feel sad at certain times, when you see something in the house, a picture or even a gesture, but all of these are normal and even help us to get through the grief.

Not everyone faces the death of a loved one in the same way

If during the grieving stage you feel that you are the one who is suffering or has suffered the most, just think that this is your way of processing and assimilating it. After all, everyone faces the death of a loved one differently. Don’t limit yourself to pleasing others.

Even if you feel you are calmer than others, you shouldn’t feel bad about it either, because the pain you feel is more internal.

Never compare the ways people grieve with your own. Besides, your mother is your mother, and you are one of those who have suffered the most from her death. However, during grief, we must learn to be able to control stress, anxiety, and gradually get over the grief.

Married or Single

Is grief different for single, childless people without siblings who’s parents especially, the mother has passed on? Compared to folks who have siblings, are married and with children?

If so in which ways does grief affect these two groups?  Please click on icon for more details. Discover the unique loneliness of grief.

 

Don’t suppress what you feel

Losing a mother is a really terrible and overwhelming thing. For the first few days of grief, you may not feel like talking to anyone and want to be alone. However, if you allow these emotions to stay inside you, forgetting everything else, you will only get a huge obstacle with which to prolong the grieving process.

First cry what you have to cry, scream if necessary, but when you feel a little better, try to find someone you trust so you can tell them how you feel and so you can release those feelings and emotions that are inside you. A hug from a sibling, family member, or friend can really comfort you and make you feel better. And talking to them about the loss is something that helps us get through it.

With this advice and everything we’ve talked about, we haven’t wanted to say at any time that you’ll forget your mother. Besides, I think that’s impossible, because our mother is the most important person in many people’s lives, and her love is so great for us that we can never take it away or forget it. Remember also that those who leave do not die, but only those who forget, and a mother is a being so important that she will always be with us, even if we cannot see her.