Reinventing your life after the death of your parents or grief- how to go on with life as an adult orphan.

It doesn’t matter how old a person is, we are never going to be ready to lose our parents. For many of us, our parents have always been there from the moment we were born until now. In every single moment of our lives, our parents have been there. Every time we fell, they were there to help us rise. Every moment we felt sad because our toy was broken, they made us feel better.

Everyone indeed knows that people can die, but we think our parents are like superheroes, and this rule does not apply to them. Of course, we know that their death is a possibility, but no one thinks about their parents’ death coming soon. And this is a big problem when we are adults, and one of our parents die.

It is impossible to be prepared to lose any parent, and when that moment comes we cannot believe it. Besides, no one ever told us how to move on when our parents were no longer here. For sure, there is no possible way to prepare anybody for the death of the two-persons that took care of her/him since the beginning of their lives.

The biggest problem comes when you finally notice that the everyday things are not the same, and you cannot just call your father when you cannot open a jar jam, call your mother when you want to eat a delicious strudel, or just laugh for the weird discussions of your parents. At that moment, you understand how important was the time you spend with them and all the memories that every day you created with them. But now, any of those things are impossible.

Everyone has their way to act because the duel does not develop in the same way for all people. Despite there are some phases or stages for the duel, the way and order in which every person goes through them, is not the same, it can vary. But, it does not matter the duel phase you’re in, you have to know how to reinvent your life and move forward after your parents death.

For this reason, we introduce you to a simple guide with the necessary steps to go on with your life despite your loss. The main objective is not forgetting your grief but to learn how to move forward after such a traumatic event like our parent’s death.

Steps to move forward despite the loss of your parents.

First of all, you should understand that overcoming the death of someone who meant a lot in your life, like your parents did, takes time. The grief is not a race where you have to be the first one to reach the final line. You do not have to try to rush your process through every stage. The key to heal the emotional injuries of loss, is to take enough time to go through all the phases and feel every one of them.

First of all, do not act like nothing happened because it is a big deal. You lost one of your parents, and understandably, you feel upset. Even Barry Allen in Flash feels terrible for the death of their parents. And if a superhero can feel sad, upset, and angry, why can’t you? You have to remember your parents like they were and how much they loved you because love is the only thing that can transcend time.

The second thing you should consider is your feelings. Talk about your feelings with someone who is releasing. The weight of losing to your parents could be lighter if you talk about what you are feeling with some familiar or friend.

Normally, you do not want the people around you to be worried about you, but you are a time bomb if you cannot express your feelings. If you feel more comfortable talking with a professional about what you are feeling, there is no problem with that.

The third thing you cannot forget is to save their memories. Your parents are gone, but it does not mean you have to forget them and throw away all their belongings immediately. Certainly, it can be hard at the beginning because the objects can teleport you through years of memories like a time machine. It is impossible to take your mother’s favorite spoon and not remember her famous stew, or watch your father ties and not to think when your mother helped him because it was crooked.

You do not have to sell all their stuff. The key is appreciating all their memories until thanks to the pass of time, you can feel comfortable saving the things that reminds you the best of your parents.

Finally, after all the nagging of your parents, you learned so many things. We always listen to the stories our parents told us of every one of their adventures. But, probably sometimes one of them told you: “I wanted to do this or go there, but I couldn’t”. Now they are not here anymore, and they certainly cannot do it. But you can do it for them.

You can be able to reconnect yourself with the memory of your parents, and it is going to let you go on with your life. Remember even Freddy Mercury sang one time that the show must go on.

Maybe for some obstacles in their life, they could not make some dreams come true. But, you can make it real for them through your life. And this is going to let you create an upper link with their memory.

Overcome the death of the parents can be the hardest thing we can live. However, it is part of the cycle of life. And even Simba from the Lion King understood that it was inevitable. But it does not mean we have to suffer from that because our parents live in our hearts and our minds while we smile through their memories.