What you should do next is stop, calm down, relax, and take a breath, after all, you’re no good to your mother dead, in the hospital or worse jail. I know your emotions are running high right about now, but you must be focused on handling all of the information and directions that you and your mom are about to receive. This is where you and your mom will need to collaborate and figure out what step to take first. This is assuming your mom can still function mentally, emotionally, and physically. Also, this depends on what stage she’s in at diagnosis and what the doctor predicts her prognosis will be.
If you are here on this website and page right now, your mom has probably just received her cancer diagnosis, and the entire family is both frightened and overwhelmed right now, and you just don’t know what to do next. What I’m about to reveal to you next is what I learned when my mother was dying. I don’t want a caregiver or family member to go through the same shit my mom, and I had to deal with. Partly because of disorganization and lack of information, these organizations like cancer treatment departments, medical centers, hospitals, attorneys (power of attorney) funeral homes, or hospice fail to help you with. You are basically left to deal with all this madness by yourself. Your mom, elderly father, siblings, and your own family members are counting on you to help mom and make sense of this cluster fuck.
This section will ensure that you, mom, dad, and your family have a better understanding of what will be taking place during the treatment process. Thereby allowing you-all to make educated, and compassionate decisions that will make this journey less intimidating to your mom and the entire family.
Okay, let’s go; we need to get started on this lists because time is of the essence, depending on mom’s prognosis. Now, remember, I’m basing this information on what my mom and I endured during her initial cancer diagnosis. And so it is upon you to get in where you fit in based on your current situation. This is what I would have done differently had I been given the opportunity, time, and knowledge by the Lord and physicians to carry out my plans to help prolong or save my mom’s life.
Please read every topic in the first column. Just click on the links and go baby go. Trust me, you will have a better understanding of the journey once you visit these links that I have shared with you; I pray that this will provide hope and relief for your family. Remember if you have a premium membership and you’re still confused and emotionally distraught please text or email me let’s see what we can come up with together. Contact Us Page
START HERE
If your mom is terminally Ill (click here)
Understanding cancer as a caregiver(click here)
Why do we have to wait so long to begin chemotherapy? (click here)
If or when mom dies (click here)
Advance directives(click Here)
First off I want to say fantastic blog! I had a quick question in which I’d like to ask if you do not mind.
I was interested to know how you center yourself and clear your thoughts before writing.
I have had difficulty clearing my thoughts in getting my thoughts out there.
I truly do take pleasure in writing however
it just seems like the first 10 to 15 minutes are usually wasted just trying to figure out how to begin. Any recommendations
or tips? Cheers!
Hi Karen,
I usually use music, hot tea and coffee and maybe a little exercise (good slow walk). Turn off all external sounds and distracts like for instance find something to keep the kids busy and give the pets a toy and let your spose know that this is your personal time and space to write. Sit down and go for it express your every thought, write the first thing that comes to your mind. Good luck!